“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”
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Failure Lab
While success is a booster for our ego, failure is a trainer for our future. It calls up our courage, injects empathy in us, boosts our immunity for fragility, and teaches us vital life lessons. “There’s a lot to like about failure.”, said Karen Finerman, the hedge fund manager and the author of “Secrets I’d Only Tell My Daughters About Business and Life”. She said all the successful women she knows had disastrous failures, but they made them tougher.
The Y Combinator founder, Paul Graham, said, “Fail early. Fail often”. Disney bankrupted his first animation company before he built Disney Studio. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Steve Jobs was fired from Apple, the company he founded, so he started Pixar. The common thread is that every successful person today is successful because of, not in spite of, their failures.
Most of us design our life carefully and safely. We don’t take high failure rate risks and we always have a plan B in the back of our minds. The funny thing is that despite the most meticulous person’s best efforts to prevent a surprise, life will always cause the unexpected to occur. Our parents divorce, a sudden death, or a global pandemic. Life is about the unexpected. That’s why our ability to be flexible and bounce back is fundamental to our wellbeing. The only way to build our mental toughness is to embrace failure instead of avoiding it.
In our Failure Lab, we created the following list of possible projects that you might want to try. If and when you fail, you will still be making a difference in the world because you’ll be helping to break down the stigma behind failure. Feel free to create your own project. Make sure to update us on your learning and progress.
Spread Random kindness
- Take animal shelter dogs running with the cross country team weekly or monthly (Credit)
- Create a Kindness Week for your school, city, or state. Encourage/Showcase people’s kind words and act.
- Lend your ears – Share airspace with introverts and shy people. Attention grabbing is just as selfish as grabbing all the food on the table.
- Create a circle of people who can talk about forgiveness and unload the burdens of resentment and hate. Welcome new participants.
- Create kindness culture by setting up a Kindness Posts Wall (Can be a real wall or a Virtual Wall) to share what you have and offer what others may need
- Create a Kindness School Corner – a place people can offer and ask for help
- Engage with the least comfortable person in every party, every classroom, and every workplace. Bring them in. It’s more important to care for people’s emotional needs than physical needs because it’s in high demand and low supply.
- Express gratitude to people who are typically unseen. (janitors, construction workers, security guards, the elderly…)
Make Social Changes
- Join us to build mental toughness for the community by calling your state department of education and your state representatives for putting toughness training into school curriculum
- Make the world more human in the backdrop of the uptrend of more AI.
- Create a change from negativity to positivity. Create forums, websites, apps, bulletin boards, or whatever format to expose Negativity in media and social media. Start at your local level. Use video to expose bullies or hate crimes in your school or community.
- Find solutions for the America’s ideological and political divide
- Create solutions for school/college cafeteria food waste.
- Save the Lost Lockdown Generation by tutoring kids on reading and math skills
- Create solutions to help with the recovery of “The Friendship Recession” that ticked up since 1990 that coincides with the rise of the digital revolution.
- Create solutions for the problem: Huge increase in prison population and homelessness, and a sharp decrease in mental hospitals.
Build/make Something
- Build composters to give/ sell to your community
- Build neighborhood book sharing cabinets to install in your community
- Make and sell your cultural food at the fair or farmers’ market
- Build a rocket
- Build an app
- Build a solar home
- Build a greenhouse
- Build an eco-friendly tiny house
Arts, Crafts, and Humanities
- Make a mural for a location that needs a cheer
- Organize an “No Talent” Talent show in your school or for your neighborhood
- Investigate sub-culture loss in your community and do something about it
- Make a quilt
- Write a novel
- Compose a song, then upload it on Spotify, Youtube, etc.